What is life without drama? We all experience it from time to time and now that I am a bit older (and a little wiser), I try to keep the amount of drama I allow into my life to a minimum. But what happens if you have frequent encounters with people who are addicted to drama?
Research indicates that drama causes the pituitary gland and hypothalamus to secrete endorphins, which are the pain-suppressing and pleasure-inducing compounds. However, like any addiction, you can build up a tolerance and in the case of drama, it could mean a person whose addicted to it may seek out more intense dramatic experiences in an effort to recapture that same delicious thrill!
The key points to consider is to listen to your mind, body and soul when you are interacting with these drama addicted individuals. Often after I have been exposed to the drama addict, I find myself feeling exhausted and anxious which manifests in headaches or heaviness around the chest area. Protecting your energy is very important so consider the following tips:
Limit your time with the drama addict. Inform them of the ‘end time’ for your meet up. You could say something like ‘Sure I can do coffee at 10 but I need to get away at 11.30 for another appointment’.
If you’re unable to put a limit on your meet up (e.g. say you’re at an all day family gathering), be mindful of your emotions and how you react. Try to stay in ‘observer’ mode if you can or respond with short answers and then make a quiet exit.
If you get home exhausted after your encounter with a drama addict, take some time out for self care. Suggestions include meditation, lavendar and epsom salt baths, getting out in nature, dancing to your favourite tunes or journaling. Pretty much, whatever relaxes you really!
Don’t try to rescue the drama addict! I have tried to do this in this past but I’ve had to learn to accept that this is their choice and they will only address the deep seeded issue(s) when they are ready.
Revaluate your relationships. Sometimes if a friend or family member is heaping too much drama on you, it may be worthwhile stepping away for a period of time.
And remember…there is nothing at all selfish about putting your own physical, mental and spiritual well being first.